Don’t Cash Crop My Cornrows - a crash discourse on black culture.
Made by me and youre-a-virgin-who-cant-drive for our history class :+)
(via blackfashion)
Interracial relationships are not a problem. You love who you love. The issue is a man refusing to date a brown woman because he is afraid that his children will look too much like him. The problem increases when men think that if a baby isn’t light-skinned with colored eyes and straighter hair that they aren’t beautiful. The issue is not having a “foreign” girlfriend. The issue is calling women who are not foreign “boring”. Preference is not the issue. Self-hate is the issue. Bashing women who resemble your mother (who you love so deeply) is where the problem lies. Laughing at women with hair and features just like yours. That is the problem… not interracial relationships.
Here’s the truth, as a biracial non-black woman of color, I am telling you we need to understand and identify how/when man of color is fetishizing us.
A key factor is how does he talk about other, darker women of color. Does he constantly compliment us by putting black women down? Does he confided in us about his hate/annoyance/dislike of black women?
If he does, whether you’re a WOC or a white woman, RUNAWAY!!!
This is as much misogyny as white men calling you a bitch or a whore. Do not stand for it. Do not fall for it.
A man of color who has the comfort to talk shit about women of color to you will soon enough find the same faults in you.
This is a HUGE red flag. This kind of self hate is poisonous. Men like this will turn that loathing on you soon enough. Punching down on another woman to lift you up isn’t a compliment. It’s violence. Do not be complicit!
This is why we need to listen to black women. This is why we need to shut up when they talk.
They have invaluable knowledge to pass on.
They can save your life.Somebody insert an amazing clapping gif.
Yes to this.
